On 22 October 2009, I did the most amazing thing. This changed my outlook on myself; I know that I can accomplish anything I can put my mind to.
I am a Fire walker; I walked on 900 ° C coals!
This was a very intense session. You spend about 3 hours with a Fire walker instructor and your fellow fire walkers.
During the preparation time, there is a lot of reflexion time. You have time to visualise, reflex back on your life and you also decide for who and what you are walking on Fire for.
The power of your mind plays a big role in this. Did you know you can do anything you put your mind to?
I have the coals we walked on as a reminder that I am a Fire Walker.
This experience is one of the Best experiences of my life.
I did not only walk on fire once, but twice, I wanted to show myself that I can do it, I am a Fire Walker!
Saturday, October 30, 2010
Phemba – Swaziland close to my heart
The Phemba mission station in Swaziland is 45 minutes away from Manzini one of the capital cities. The mission station is in a very rural area on a sugar cane farm.
Our church has been involved in the Mission station since 1999. Every year during the June/July holidays we go to Swaziland for 10 days. Each year we have a building project and we are involved in the schools by giving the children art classes, puppet show, playing netball and soccer and the teachers are also involved in Needlework. We are also involved in the Church services.
In 2001 I went to Phemba for the first time, this is where I met my husband, and he was also part of our Church Team that went to the mission statement. I truly believe that God brought us together, it is so special.
The building projects we did in 2001 – 2010 were: Providing electricity to the School, building ablution facilities, providing the station with running water, took of the existing straw roof of the Church and the Evangelist house and replaced it with an metal roof, Fixed the dam and connected the water pump to ensure that the water can be stored in the dam, fenced a piece of land for the crops, supplied the local people of the village with groceries.
The people of Phemba are very poor, but every year they teach us how to be thankful for what you have and that God will provide. It is amazing how the village of people remember you, you might not see them for two years, but they remember your name and tell you how thankful they are for what you have done.
I have been to Phemba for 7 years and every time I learn from the people of Phemba to appreciate the small things in life, to be thankful for what you have and to love unconditionally.
Our church has been involved in the Mission station since 1999. Every year during the June/July holidays we go to Swaziland for 10 days. Each year we have a building project and we are involved in the schools by giving the children art classes, puppet show, playing netball and soccer and the teachers are also involved in Needlework. We are also involved in the Church services.
In 2001 I went to Phemba for the first time, this is where I met my husband, and he was also part of our Church Team that went to the mission statement. I truly believe that God brought us together, it is so special.
The building projects we did in 2001 – 2010 were: Providing electricity to the School, building ablution facilities, providing the station with running water, took of the existing straw roof of the Church and the Evangelist house and replaced it with an metal roof, Fixed the dam and connected the water pump to ensure that the water can be stored in the dam, fenced a piece of land for the crops, supplied the local people of the village with groceries.
The people of Phemba are very poor, but every year they teach us how to be thankful for what you have and that God will provide. It is amazing how the village of people remember you, you might not see them for two years, but they remember your name and tell you how thankful they are for what you have done.
I have been to Phemba for 7 years and every time I learn from the people of Phemba to appreciate the small things in life, to be thankful for what you have and to love unconditionally.
Why do cars fascinate men so much?
There are two things that you cannot separate: Men and cars.
There are a lot of men that do not know much about the works of the car engine, but they do know the size of the engine, the amount of torque, the gadgets inside the car, the petrol/diesel consumption etc.
I don't know why cars fascinate men so much. Maybe it is because cars can be controlled, beautiful to look at, something you can show off with.
Each man has his favourites make. My husband's favourite car is an Ashton Martin DB9.
In September 2010, I took my husband to the Uncorked Wine Festival in Franschoek for our Wedding Anniversary. I took him there, because we love Wine tasting but also because I knew that the Wine Farm Vrede and Lust was exhibited the New Ashton Martin.
My husband was overwhelmed with joy when he saw the Ashton Martin. One of our friends worked in London and he got the Ashton Martin wings pin. So now my husband wears it on his jacket. This is a status symbol if you have the Ashton Martin wings.
So which car fascinates your man?
Watch this Space ...
In August this year, my husband and I moved into our new house. It is a very spacious house that includes a dining room and a braai room. This is perfect for me that love entertaining people.
The house is 37 years old and it was our mission from the start to do a bit of changes inside and outside the house.
In the first two weeks, we took out 2 trees and put up fencing, a motorised pedestrian gate and a motorised car gate, An electric garage door. In the next week my husband took out the other 3 trees and we took away all the branches etc with a trailer to the damp.
We changed the whole garden and also made a garden path. This we did all by ourselves. My husband made wooden shelves for the wine tasting glasses in the Braai room.
We changed all the cupboard handles.
There is still a lot to do, we would like to modernise the x 2 bathrooms, put up new lights in the dining room and outside.
The people who sold the house to us, came to the house last week and the man asked his wife don't you want to buy this house. They cannot believe the changes we've done in a short amount of time.
What do they always say Watch this space ... there is more to come.
The house is 37 years old and it was our mission from the start to do a bit of changes inside and outside the house.
In the first two weeks, we took out 2 trees and put up fencing, a motorised pedestrian gate and a motorised car gate, An electric garage door. In the next week my husband took out the other 3 trees and we took away all the branches etc with a trailer to the damp.
We changed the whole garden and also made a garden path. This we did all by ourselves. My husband made wooden shelves for the wine tasting glasses in the Braai room.
We changed all the cupboard handles.
There is still a lot to do, we would like to modernise the x 2 bathrooms, put up new lights in the dining room and outside.
The people who sold the house to us, came to the house last week and the man asked his wife don't you want to buy this house. They cannot believe the changes we've done in a short amount of time.
What do they always say Watch this space ... there is more to come.
My mission for the Cat in the Hat ....
Being an Afrikaans girl, I have not read any Cat in the Hat books. I have heard about them and know that they are very popular with English Children.
I also know there is a movie and that Dr Seuss the writer is an American.
I will make it my mission to read at least one book before the End of December 2010 and also watch the Movie.
I am sure I would like the book and the movie, because I do like children's books and Movies. I feel that it is made easy to understand not only for children, but also for adults. One can identify with the stories and books and not need a dictionary next to you, to look up words that you don't understand.
So very soon the Cat in the Hat will become part of my life and I would be able to tick it off as one of the books I read.
I also know there is a movie and that Dr Seuss the writer is an American.
I will make it my mission to read at least one book before the End of December 2010 and also watch the Movie.
I am sure I would like the book and the movie, because I do like children's books and Movies. I feel that it is made easy to understand not only for children, but also for adults. One can identify with the stories and books and not need a dictionary next to you, to look up words that you don't understand.
So very soon the Cat in the Hat will become part of my life and I would be able to tick it off as one of the books I read.
Friday, October 29, 2010
World Famous in fifteen minutes is possible
In 1968 Andy Warthol, had an expression that "In the future everybody will be world famous for fifteen minutes. Andy Warthol was one of the leading figures in the visual art movement know as pop art. Andy's Prediction came true; everybody can be world famous for fifteen minutes.
If you think about it, the television provides opportunities for you to become world famous, the Internet; You Tube, Twitter, Facebook etc.
You are already world famous and you might not even know it.
Idols is an example; the auditions are viewed by thousands of people, so if you auditioned you are famous. This might not be a good thing, because you might not be able to sing and now everybody knows it.
YouTube is another way for you to become world famous. Your friends loaded a video on YouTube and millions of people will view the video.
So it is easy to become World Famous, the questions is just are you building on your reputation or destroying it.
I would not particularly want to become world famous. I enjoy working behind the scenes.
I think in South Africa we have a perfect example to live by if you really want to become World Famous. Our very own Former President Nelson Mandela.
Strive to become World Famous so that you can help make a difference in other peoples' lives.
Neil Diamond
I am so excited about the Neil Diamond show in Cape Town Stadium on 11 April 2011.
Neil Diamond is my parents ultimate favourite singer. He was like the Parlotones, Heuwels fantasties and Prime circle is now for a lot of us. Except he was not a band but a Solo singer.
The announcement was made on KFM 94.5 that Neil Diamond was coming to Cape Town in April 2011 on the Wednesday and ticket sales were going to open by the Saturday. I was so excited and immediately decided that I will buy tickets for my parents.
After the announcement KFM played "Sweet Caroline". I sang in the car and I was in a very good mood when I got to work.
So, the ticket sales opened at 09:00 on that Saturday and I bought two ticket at 09:30.
I told my parents about the tickets, my mother couldn't believe it, she asked me three times if I was sure that it is Neil Diamond coming to Cape Town.
I think I am more excited than my parents, but I am really glad I bought them tickets and this made me realise how good it feels to do something good for somebody else.
On the Saturday 48,000 tickets were sold in Cape Town and Johannesburg and yesterday they said that the Neil Diamond show is sold out 90%. So if you are thinking of buying tickets, you should do it immediately.
Neil Diamond is my parents ultimate favourite singer. He was like the Parlotones, Heuwels fantasties and Prime circle is now for a lot of us. Except he was not a band but a Solo singer.
The announcement was made on KFM 94.5 that Neil Diamond was coming to Cape Town in April 2011 on the Wednesday and ticket sales were going to open by the Saturday. I was so excited and immediately decided that I will buy tickets for my parents.
After the announcement KFM played "Sweet Caroline". I sang in the car and I was in a very good mood when I got to work.
So, the ticket sales opened at 09:00 on that Saturday and I bought two ticket at 09:30.
I told my parents about the tickets, my mother couldn't believe it, she asked me three times if I was sure that it is Neil Diamond coming to Cape Town.
I think I am more excited than my parents, but I am really glad I bought them tickets and this made me realise how good it feels to do something good for somebody else.
On the Saturday 48,000 tickets were sold in Cape Town and Johannesburg and yesterday they said that the Neil Diamond show is sold out 90%. So if you are thinking of buying tickets, you should do it immediately.
The Difference between In Love and Love
I think the problem with the society of today, is they do not know the difference between being inlove and love.
In my opinion people get married to soon and this is why there are so many divorces and broken homes.
I have a philosophy and I have seen this happen. If you are in a relationship you are inlove with the other person for two years. We all know how it is, if you are inlove, you think the other person is the most perfect person you have ever met, the other person can't do anything wrong. Then after two years you really get to know the person and see the person for who he/or she really is. Sometimes you don't like the person you now know.
So my advice, you first need to really get to know the person, before you become very serious and decide to spent the rest of your lives together.
It really is great to be inlove, I am sure everyone remembers their first time they've been in love.
But I can also tell you, that it is great to be in love but also truly love your husband who you promised to love the rest of your life, the day you got married.
It is great to love and be loved for who and what you are.
The Great Karoo and the Little Karoo and my connection
The Great Karoo and the Little Karoo is in two different Provinces, but they both very close to my heart.
My mother grew up in Calvinia and my grandmother had a farm a 100km away from the Town, Calvinia. I spent most of my winter school holidays on the Farm. The most amazing things for a child on a Farm are the open fields and the freedom to go anywhere. On hot days we swam in the farm dam. My brothers and I walked up the mountain and played House-house in the cave.
Opposite the farm house was our favourite play park; my grandfathers old cars, tractors and farm implements. We climbed on the tractors and into the cars and entertained ourselves for hours.
We also assisted my uncle with the marking and weighing of the sheep. We really had the time of our lives.
In the Karoo you will also be able to see the Milky Way the clearest you’ll ever experiences. I remember one evening we sat on the Farm stoep and counted 11 satellites and 6 shooting stars within an hour.
My husband’s father grew up on a farm just outside Laingsburg in the Little Karoo. So he has many childhood experiences on the Farm. The Little Karoo is also very hot in summer and very cold in winter just like the Great Karoo.
We also experience the most amazing days and evenings on the Laingsburg Farm.
If one wants to get away from City life and all the noise, the farm is the best place to go. I have also slept outside in the Little Karoo and watched the stars and found piece of mind.
The Farm in the Great Karoo has been sold and we don’t visit the farm very often, but the Little Karoo in Laingsburg we visit quite often and spend Christmas on the Farm every two years.
The Karoo is the place where I am able to think, to relax, and to just be me and a place where I can walk, pray and think in my own time.
Everyone needs time out and a place where you can experience life in its natural form.
My mother grew up in Calvinia and my grandmother had a farm a 100km away from the Town, Calvinia. I spent most of my winter school holidays on the Farm. The most amazing things for a child on a Farm are the open fields and the freedom to go anywhere. On hot days we swam in the farm dam. My brothers and I walked up the mountain and played House-house in the cave.
Opposite the farm house was our favourite play park; my grandfathers old cars, tractors and farm implements. We climbed on the tractors and into the cars and entertained ourselves for hours.
We also assisted my uncle with the marking and weighing of the sheep. We really had the time of our lives.
In the Karoo you will also be able to see the Milky Way the clearest you’ll ever experiences. I remember one evening we sat on the Farm stoep and counted 11 satellites and 6 shooting stars within an hour.
My husband’s father grew up on a farm just outside Laingsburg in the Little Karoo. So he has many childhood experiences on the Farm. The Little Karoo is also very hot in summer and very cold in winter just like the Great Karoo.
We also experience the most amazing days and evenings on the Laingsburg Farm.
If one wants to get away from City life and all the noise, the farm is the best place to go. I have also slept outside in the Little Karoo and watched the stars and found piece of mind.
The Farm in the Great Karoo has been sold and we don’t visit the farm very often, but the Little Karoo in Laingsburg we visit quite often and spend Christmas on the Farm every two years.
The Karoo is the place where I am able to think, to relax, and to just be me and a place where I can walk, pray and think in my own time.
Everyone needs time out and a place where you can experience life in its natural form.
Our favourite hobby - WINE TASTING
We absolutely love going on Wine Tastings. We are very priviledge to live in the Western Cape. There are a lot of Wine farms and estate across the Western Cape.
We have a big variety to choose from. The Red varieties are: Cinsaut, Pinotage, Caberet Sauvignon, Cabernet Franc, Shiraz, Malbec, Pinot Noir and Merlot. The white varieties are Chardonnay, Sauvignon Blanc, Chenin Blanc, Colombar, Muscat d' Alexandrie, Weisser Riesling, Gewurtztraminer and Cape Riesling.
You would need to go on a wine tasting and taste the different wines to decide which one you like. My husband and I like red wine. We have been to over 40 wine farms in the Western Cape. How do I know this? We collect the tasting glasses from the wine estates. We bought the wine glasses and it is exhibited in our Braai room. The tasting glass is like a photo, we will always remember we visited that specific farm.
My husband also proposed on a Wine Farm in Paarl, so we have special moments that we share at Wine farms.
Wine is also a good food source and also relaxes, which is need in this stressful times we live in.
I did a wine course that included the history of wine and a practical exam. My brother is a wine maker and my husband and I are wine lovers, so we will always have enough wine.
A friend of our visited our house for the first time and we have a wine rack that is always full of wine bottles. The friend walked past the wine rack and said, so I see you will never go thirsty.
An accident happens so fast ...
In August this year, my husband and I decided, it is time to get a friend for our Jack Russel, Noga. We decided we wanted to get a Labrador. I wanted a white Labrador and he wanted a Black one.
We searched Gumtree to find Labradors for sale. I saw a photo of a black Labrador and I changed my mind I wanted a black Labrador.
We found the price that suited us. It was people in Rawsonville that sold the Labrador puppies. We were on our way to Laingsburg and told the lady if there are still puppies left on that Sunday on our way home we will take one.
On Sunday we drove back and we went to Rawsonville and we chose a female and called her EVA.
Noga the Jack Russel wasn’t impressed with her new friend; she was the only child and received all the attention. Now there was another dog, why? The second day Noga realised this is a cool friend. They try out wrestling moves and I am sure they would be able to act on WWE.
EVA the Labrador is twice Noga the Jack Russel’s size, but the Jack Russel is very strong and puts the Labrador on her place.
On 26 October 2010 it was my mothers Birthday and my brothers were also at my mom’s place. Eva was very excited to see my Brother. Nor I, nor my husband was in the same room as Eva and my brother, the next minute we just heard Eva crying and making a noise. Noga, off course also needed to make a noise.
We ran into the room and asked what happened? My brother explained that Eva jumped over his legs and tripped and fell. Eva couldn’t walk and it really hurt.
My husband and I took Eva to the 24 hour emergency unit at the Animal hospital. The vet couldn’t see anything, gave her an injection and said we needed to be back the following morning at 08:00 for X-rays.
So yesterday morning at 08:00 we booked Eva in for X-rays. The doctor phoned before 11:00 and told me Eva broke her shin bone and it was a spiral break.
Luckily she doesn’t need an operation at this stage. Her whole leg is bandaged and we need to take her to the Vet every week to redress the bandage for four weeks. They will take an X-ray by the 3rd week to see if the leg is healed. We truly hope it will healed and not need an operation. This will not be good, in terms of our budget and also in terms of Noga’s sanity. Noga cannot understand why Eva can’t play with her.
The doctor asked us to do something impossible. Keep the dog still; this is very difficult for a puppy.
An accident happens so fast and no one can believe that Eva broke her leg, this usually doesn’t happen to puppies.
This experience prepares us for children one day and teaches us patience and perseverance.
Thursday, October 28, 2010
The Last lecture
There are things that people don’t like to do, or avoid for as long as they can. I hate goodbyes, bidding something farewell.
One has a set time to make an impact in people lives. If you are a lecturer at University you only have a certain amounts of lectures at your disposal. As a lecture one of your objectives are to learn and teach students. This is actually a very scary thought, because you are responsible to teach somebody something they don’t know about. You are responsible to educate children and parents in an apprioriate manner.
These are just a few points I picked up while listening and learning from the Speakers/Lectures
- Be bold and get to know the student
- Communicate with your followers through Twitter.
- Be prepared if you are going to present a presentation or in lecturers.
We had our last media studies lecture beginng of October 2010, I couldn’t believe that I was done with this subject.
In life we never know when our last lecture will end, but we can prepare yourself by trying to make a difference in the person’s life.
One has a set time to make an impact in people lives. If you are a lecturer at University you only have a certain amounts of lectures at your disposal. As a lecture one of your objectives are to learn and teach students. This is actually a very scary thought, because you are responsible to teach somebody something they don’t know about. You are responsible to educate children and parents in an apprioriate manner.
These are just a few points I picked up while listening and learning from the Speakers/Lectures
- Be bold and get to know the student
- Communicate with your followers through Twitter.
- Be prepared if you are going to present a presentation or in lecturers.
We had our last media studies lecture beginng of October 2010, I couldn’t believe that I was done with this subject.
In life we never know when our last lecture will end, but we can prepare yourself by trying to make a difference in the person’s life.
My bucket list...
This is a difficult topic, because one does not want to think about death. I think it is best that we don’t know what is going to happen in the future or when we are going to die.
If we knew it would be chaos, panic and depression that will follow.
However one has a “bucket list” of what you would like to do still in life.
I have achieved some of the things on my bucket list already.
1. I wanted to finish school and study – DONE
2. I wanted to buy my own car – DONE
3. I wanted to buy property – DONE (I bought my first property a one bedroom flat in
January 2007)
4. I wanted to get married – DONE
5. I wanted to buy a house – Done (August 2010)
6. I wanted a Jack Russel – Done
7. I wanted a Labrador – DONE
8. I wanted to ride and touch an elephant – DONE
9. I wanted to go and visit Namibia – DONE
10. I wanted to go and visit Swaziland and do missionary work – DONE
11. I wanted to publish articles in Newspapers – DONE
12. I Wanted to do something extreme – DONE (I am a Firewalker and abseiled)
13. I would like to travel Africa (Still do be done)
14. I wanted to go to England and Scotland for an international holiday – DONE
15. I wanted to Quad Bike in the Namib Desert – DONE
16. I would like to have Children (Still to be done)
17. I would like to take my husband to Storms River and let him experience “Tree Top
Canopies” I have done it but not him.
18. I would like to make a life changing experience for somebody (Still to be done)
19. Visit the Drakensberge and spent a few nights there.
I am sure there are a lot more and enough to work on, but there is also this one thing that I would like to do before I die, and that is to have enough love for everybody.
How on earth will I get that right, well I am only one person and their are billions of people on earth, but if I love my loved ones dearly and show and tell that to them everyday, they will again do the same and it will have a ripple effect.
Don’t wait to long until you start to fulfil your dreams, live everyday to its fullest, as if there is no tomorrow.
If we knew it would be chaos, panic and depression that will follow.
However one has a “bucket list” of what you would like to do still in life.
I have achieved some of the things on my bucket list already.
1. I wanted to finish school and study – DONE
2. I wanted to buy my own car – DONE
3. I wanted to buy property – DONE (I bought my first property a one bedroom flat in
January 2007)
4. I wanted to get married – DONE
5. I wanted to buy a house – Done (August 2010)
6. I wanted a Jack Russel – Done
7. I wanted a Labrador – DONE
8. I wanted to ride and touch an elephant – DONE
9. I wanted to go and visit Namibia – DONE
10. I wanted to go and visit Swaziland and do missionary work – DONE
11. I wanted to publish articles in Newspapers – DONE
12. I Wanted to do something extreme – DONE (I am a Firewalker and abseiled)
13. I would like to travel Africa (Still do be done)
14. I wanted to go to England and Scotland for an international holiday – DONE
15. I wanted to Quad Bike in the Namib Desert – DONE
16. I would like to have Children (Still to be done)
17. I would like to take my husband to Storms River and let him experience “Tree Top
Canopies” I have done it but not him.
18. I would like to make a life changing experience for somebody (Still to be done)
19. Visit the Drakensberge and spent a few nights there.
I am sure there are a lot more and enough to work on, but there is also this one thing that I would like to do before I die, and that is to have enough love for everybody.
How on earth will I get that right, well I am only one person and their are billions of people on earth, but if I love my loved ones dearly and show and tell that to them everyday, they will again do the same and it will have a ripple effect.
Don’t wait to long until you start to fulfil your dreams, live everyday to its fullest, as if there is no tomorrow.
Our greatest strengths are our greatest weaknesses
Our greatest strengths are our greatest weaknesses. I agree with this statement 100%. Why? Our Strengths can drag us down. An example could be: You could be a very good listener and always be willing to listen to people in need, or be there and always be available if somebody wants to talk.
The downside or weakness to this strength can be because you always make time to listen to other people; you neglect your husband/wife, children and family because you never have time to spend with the people closest to you. The other down side is that you never make time to listen and think by yourself. The latter is very important to give you perspective in life, have a quality of life and it is very important to spent time with the people you love.
It might be a good idea to do a SWOT Analysis for your own life. Make time to think what is your Strengths and what are your Weaknesses, what is the Opportunities and what is the Threats that might cause you not to make a success of your opportunities.
Make time to think about the important things in your life and don’t just think about it, put it into action!
The downside or weakness to this strength can be because you always make time to listen to other people; you neglect your husband/wife, children and family because you never have time to spend with the people closest to you. The other down side is that you never make time to listen and think by yourself. The latter is very important to give you perspective in life, have a quality of life and it is very important to spent time with the people you love.
It might be a good idea to do a SWOT Analysis for your own life. Make time to think what is your Strengths and what are your Weaknesses, what is the Opportunities and what is the Threats that might cause you not to make a success of your opportunities.
Make time to think about the important things in your life and don’t just think about it, put it into action!
Sunday, October 24, 2010
Have you figured out the second head fake?
According to Wikipedia there are two kinds of Head Fakes.
The one is a Sports term used when a player moves their head to fake a change in direction. We use to call it a Dodge. You would fool your opposition player.
The second head fake is in the market place specifically trading a head fake is when it appears in the market that the market would be moving in one directions but it actually ends up moving the other way. E.g. the stocks might look like it is going up but then the price falls and then everything goes down.
I have not figured out my head fake, I have learn during the years that life happens while we were making other plans. Yes sometimes you plan something and with slight changes the plan mostly comes together and ends up the way you thought of it. But I have experienced that most of the times, things in your personal life does not go according to your plan.
If I can share a personal example: My husband and I wanted to sell our One bedroom flat and we decided we were not going to go through an estate agent but will be selling it ourselves. So we had a few people interested in our Advert on Gumtree. The Estate Agent knew we wanted to sell and she asked if they cannot also be the sole proprietor and market. We then agreed and thought ok this will probably go quick.
So in November 2009 a friend of us, Jack Russel got puppies and we said we wanted one, thinking that our flat will sell in a months time and then we will have a house. See were were not allowed to have dogs in the Security complex. So we sneaked in the puppy every evening and sneaked out every morning. But one night the puppy fell of the bed and the sneaking in and out was something in the past. We then moved in with my parents, thinking again it won't take long to sell the flat.
Eventually after 7 months we sold the flat and in August 2010 we moved into our new house.
So you see things don't always work out the way you want it to work out. You think you have control over your own head fake, but you don't.
I rather leave the planning up to God, this also helps with my stress levels and worries, because I know it is not in my hands and my control.
The one is a Sports term used when a player moves their head to fake a change in direction. We use to call it a Dodge. You would fool your opposition player.
The second head fake is in the market place specifically trading a head fake is when it appears in the market that the market would be moving in one directions but it actually ends up moving the other way. E.g. the stocks might look like it is going up but then the price falls and then everything goes down.
I have not figured out my head fake, I have learn during the years that life happens while we were making other plans. Yes sometimes you plan something and with slight changes the plan mostly comes together and ends up the way you thought of it. But I have experienced that most of the times, things in your personal life does not go according to your plan.
If I can share a personal example: My husband and I wanted to sell our One bedroom flat and we decided we were not going to go through an estate agent but will be selling it ourselves. So we had a few people interested in our Advert on Gumtree. The Estate Agent knew we wanted to sell and she asked if they cannot also be the sole proprietor and market. We then agreed and thought ok this will probably go quick.
So in November 2009 a friend of us, Jack Russel got puppies and we said we wanted one, thinking that our flat will sell in a months time and then we will have a house. See were were not allowed to have dogs in the Security complex. So we sneaked in the puppy every evening and sneaked out every morning. But one night the puppy fell of the bed and the sneaking in and out was something in the past. We then moved in with my parents, thinking again it won't take long to sell the flat.
Eventually after 7 months we sold the flat and in August 2010 we moved into our new house.
So you see things don't always work out the way you want it to work out. You think you have control over your own head fake, but you don't.
I rather leave the planning up to God, this also helps with my stress levels and worries, because I know it is not in my hands and my control.
Tuesday, October 19, 2010
A skill set called Leadership
I believe that some people are born leaders. A lot of times, people don't believe in themselves or the teacher, couch, boss have not seen the person's ability to be a leader.
In our youth at church we try our best to do activities to identify leaders. One of my friends developed an activity that he uses at schools to help identify the teachers the leaders in a group.
I have been a leader many times in my life and believe that a leader takes people with on the road to success. You cannot do things alone and when you allow people to walk with you, you also develop their leadership skills. A leader should not be a boss that tells people what and how to do it, a leader should tell people what needs to be done and allow the team to do it. A leader should be someone that one would like to follow and learn from, not somebody that you "hate".
I would like to share a few quotes on leaders and leadership.
“Don't walk in front of me; I may not follow. Don't walk behind me; I may not lead. Just walk beside me and be my friend.”
Albert Camus quotes (French Novelist, Essayist and Playwright, 1957 Nobel Prize for Literature, 1913-1960)
"The best executive is the one who has sense enough to pick good men to do what he wants done, and self-restraint to keep from meddling with them while they do it."
Theodore Roosevelt
"The leadership instinct you are born with is the backbone. You develop the funny bone and the wishbone that go with it."
Elaine Agather
"Don't tell people how to do things, tell them what to do and let them surprise you with their results."
George S. Patton
"Leaders must be close enough to relate to others, but far enough ahead to motivate them."
~John Maxwell
It is really a priviledge to lead people, try and be a leader that even though your "term" has ended the positive influence you left on the people you lead will stay forever.
In our youth at church we try our best to do activities to identify leaders. One of my friends developed an activity that he uses at schools to help identify the teachers the leaders in a group.
I have been a leader many times in my life and believe that a leader takes people with on the road to success. You cannot do things alone and when you allow people to walk with you, you also develop their leadership skills. A leader should not be a boss that tells people what and how to do it, a leader should tell people what needs to be done and allow the team to do it. A leader should be someone that one would like to follow and learn from, not somebody that you "hate".
I would like to share a few quotes on leaders and leadership.
“Don't walk in front of me; I may not follow. Don't walk behind me; I may not lead. Just walk beside me and be my friend.”
Albert Camus quotes (French Novelist, Essayist and Playwright, 1957 Nobel Prize for Literature, 1913-1960)
"The best executive is the one who has sense enough to pick good men to do what he wants done, and self-restraint to keep from meddling with them while they do it."
Theodore Roosevelt
"The leadership instinct you are born with is the backbone. You develop the funny bone and the wishbone that go with it."
Elaine Agather
"Don't tell people how to do things, tell them what to do and let them surprise you with their results."
George S. Patton
"Leaders must be close enough to relate to others, but far enough ahead to motivate them."
~John Maxwell
It is really a priviledge to lead people, try and be a leader that even though your "term" has ended the positive influence you left on the people you lead will stay forever.
Feelings follow behaviour
We as people are emotional beings. We react on the way people make us feel. Think about it. When a person is friendly towards you, you are most of the time also friendly toward that person. When a person treats you unfair, you will not trust or respect that person, you will tell everybody about the way the person treated you.
If a man or a woman flirts with you, you flirt back if you think he/or she is handsome.
Feelings aren't always a good judgement. There are times when a married man, develops feelings for another woman and then they have an affair. This then most of the time leads to a divorce if the wife/husband finds out about the affair.
We as adults know what is right or wrong and should judge and take responsibility for our behaviour. Feelings could have a huge negative impact on somebody else's. We can control our feelings and not behave in certain ways.
Let the feelings that can make you feel good and impact positive on people's lives take control!
If a man or a woman flirts with you, you flirt back if you think he/or she is handsome.
Feelings aren't always a good judgement. There are times when a married man, develops feelings for another woman and then they have an affair. This then most of the time leads to a divorce if the wife/husband finds out about the affair.
We as adults know what is right or wrong and should judge and take responsibility for our behaviour. Feelings could have a huge negative impact on somebody else's. We can control our feelings and not behave in certain ways.
Let the feelings that can make you feel good and impact positive on people's lives take control!
No all who wander are lost
The writer of Lord of the Rings, J.R.R. Tolkien said: "Not all who wander are lost." I think what he meant is, if you wander in the woods or in shopping mall, nature reserve or where it may be, you are not necessary lost. You wander because you would like time to think, or maybe see if you can take another turn on the road and see if you can still reach your destination if you don't want the same way you always do.
There are a lot of people who don't want to do the same things over and over, they like change and then they are not sure where they would like to be, so they wander around and decide on what to do next.
Sometimes it is good to wander around, by wandering you get time to think, time to rest and maybe also even find peace.
You don't need to always be on a mission, I personally are always busy and on a mission to get something done or be somewhere on time. I don't make time to rest, sit and do nothing.
I think I am going to make time to wander around and find myself again, make time for the things I love.
It is better to practice a little than talk a lot
I don't know if you have come across people in your life that talk a lot, but do nothing. These people tell you what to do and how to do it, but they have never done it.
I am sure a lot of times people have appointed people in a position because they were excellent in the interview and answered all the questions correctly but when they have the job and need to get the job done, they don't deliver.
One cannot always pick this up about a person immediately and most of the time you realise this to late.
I have come across this many times especially in the work place. Some time people will see that this person talks a lot and don't deliver. You will not only loose your job at some stage, but you will also have a bad reputation and nobody would want to work with you.
So, don't talk to much as if you know everything rather practice to do something good and know how to do it.
People will have respect for you and you won't be caught out but a person that know more than you about a specific subject and make you feel stupid.
It is better to practice a little than talk a lot.
I am sure a lot of times people have appointed people in a position because they were excellent in the interview and answered all the questions correctly but when they have the job and need to get the job done, they don't deliver.
One cannot always pick this up about a person immediately and most of the time you realise this to late.
I have come across this many times especially in the work place. Some time people will see that this person talks a lot and don't deliver. You will not only loose your job at some stage, but you will also have a bad reputation and nobody would want to work with you.
So, don't talk to much as if you know everything rather practice to do something good and know how to do it.
People will have respect for you and you won't be caught out but a person that know more than you about a specific subject and make you feel stupid.
It is better to practice a little than talk a lot.
Sunday, October 17, 2010
Conventional is a good fallback position isn't it?
The world we live in have a lot of changes, everything changes, why would they want to change this?
These are all questions that people ask on a daily basis, this is mostly asked by older people, but there are also a lot of young people that asks these questions.
A Greek philosopher Heraclitus said in 500BC, " The only constant is chang." If he could say this in 500BC when there wasn't television, the internet, communication through social media he either was a forward thinker or changes occured in 500 BC already.
Isaac Asimov said: " It is change continuing change, inevitable change, that is the dominant factor in society today. No sensible decision can be made any longer without taking into account not only the world as it is, but the world as it will be."
A lot of people resist change because they are use to how things are done now and how they are use to doing things.
For instance a lot of companies bosses are not familiar with social media and also isn't interested in learning about it, or paying somebody to do it, so they still do conventional marketing, advertising and Public Relations. The conventional might not be as cost effective and efficient but they resist change and would rather do it they way they know it.
I belief one should embrace change and see the positive althoug I also belief that change is not communicated correctly and this is one of the reasons people resist change, because they do not know all the facts or reasons why change is necessary.
This is why Managers should be taught to do change management in a sufficient way.
These are all questions that people ask on a daily basis, this is mostly asked by older people, but there are also a lot of young people that asks these questions.
A Greek philosopher Heraclitus said in 500BC, " The only constant is chang." If he could say this in 500BC when there wasn't television, the internet, communication through social media he either was a forward thinker or changes occured in 500 BC already.
Isaac Asimov said: " It is change continuing change, inevitable change, that is the dominant factor in society today. No sensible decision can be made any longer without taking into account not only the world as it is, but the world as it will be."
A lot of people resist change because they are use to how things are done now and how they are use to doing things.
For instance a lot of companies bosses are not familiar with social media and also isn't interested in learning about it, or paying somebody to do it, so they still do conventional marketing, advertising and Public Relations. The conventional might not be as cost effective and efficient but they resist change and would rather do it they way they know it.
I belief one should embrace change and see the positive althoug I also belief that change is not communicated correctly and this is one of the reasons people resist change, because they do not know all the facts or reasons why change is necessary.
This is why Managers should be taught to do change management in a sufficient way.
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